Step 5: Criteria Intended Parents Look for in a Surrogate

Have you ever wondered:

What do intended parents look for when they are seeking a gestational surrogate?

Or “Who actually uses a gestational surrogate?” and “Why would someone need to use a surrogate?”

If you have , you’re asking smart questions! Finding the right gestational surrogate that meets many of the required criteria of the intended parents is crucial. After all, the surrogate that they choose is going to be entrusted to carry the most precious, important piece of their lives.

It’s important to note that many intended parents do not have surrogacy in mind when they dreamed of starting their families. Sometimes, by the time they reach the surrogacy option, they have already endured several rounds of treatment or heartbreak. Luckily though, surrogacy is an option they can explore.

In the case of other individuals, such as gay male couples or single men, they physically require the help of a gestational surrogate. In addition, other couples and singles may have a medical need (such as a necessary hysterectomy) that prevents them from carrying a child themselves.

When a couple is facing infertility and other challenges that push them to reach out to a surrogate as a piece of the puzzle that is building their family, there are understandably a lot of emotions for them to work through. From disappointment to elation, and just about everything in between, you can expect that your intended parents are going to have mixed reactions to different aspects of their relationship with you, the surrogate.

An important thing to remember is that you are not part of the problem – you’re the solution to the family’s dreams of children! As a helper in this amazing journey, you have the unique opportunity to give one of the most precious gifts ever given: New life.

Different intended parents may want different things from their surrogate A few examples are some want a close relationship while others desire privacy. Perhaps your intended parents adhere to certain religious requirements and desire that their surrogate do the same while she carries their child. Some may want to attend every OB appointment while some may live out of state and would like to be included via FaceTime.

Whatever your intended parents are looking for or may require, the relationship of a surrogacy agency, gestational surrogate and intended parents forms a triangle, which is the strongest shape in nature. Together, the three of us will work collaboratively to create an ideal match and a strong bond to create a family!

We’ve put together a list of the qualities we look for in our gestational surrogates: Top 10 Things that Will Make You an Ideal Surrogate

Find out more about surrogacy from the perspective of both the gestational surrogate and the intended parents on the Fertility Cafe podcast: Surrogacy 101 – When It Takes a Village to Start a Family

Wondering if you qualify to become a surrogate? Click here to see if you meet the qualifications

What does the surrogacy process look like from start to finish? Click here to see the surrogacy journey laid out step-by-step

Ready to take on this role of a lifetime? Click here to apply to be a surrogate with Family Inceptions, and find out INSTANTLY if you are approved.

Still have questions? Please contact us today to learn more about becoming a surrogate. At Family Inceptions, we have caring and compassionate staff that can help you to understand more about the surrogacy journey and answer the questions that you have about getting started.

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