Ten Things That Will Make You an Ideal Surrogate
These ten characteristics make a woman an ideal surrogate. Are you a mom already? Are you motivated by empathy? Do you love being pregnant?
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Your life will be changed in ways that you never dreamed of through surrogacy. In addition to showing compassion for children, you can find financial stability and success. The surrogacy process is a life-changing experience, but what are the requirements? We require health, financial, and lifestyle requirements for our surrogates in New Jersey.
These ten characteristics make a woman an ideal surrogate. Are you a mom already? Are you motivated by empathy? Do you love being pregnant?
Read the story of Eloise Drane, founder and CEO of Family Inceptions, host of the wildly popular podcast Fertility Cafe, and creator of Surrogacy Roadmap
Last night as my husband and I closely watched our instructional video, set up our prep station and prepared for my hormone injections, we found
Let’s cut right to the quick… Becoming a surrogate is a big deal. It’s a common phrase among adults, “…but first, do your research.” It’s
Family Inceptions is a surrogacy and egg donation agency, first established in 2008, and has been helping was aid local families and surrogates looking to complete the journey of surrogacy in Bergen, Passaic, Sussex, Hudson, Union, Morris, and Middlesex and the surrounding cities. We help families from metro Burlington, to Essex, Somerset on down to Camden.
We are a full-service Surrogacy and Egg Donation agency, providing both surrogates and egg donors for intended parents across the state. While we have general guidelines, we make sure to individualize plans intended for specific timelines, preferences, and locations. This individualization is what makes Family Inceptions the number one surrogacy agency in New Jersey.Read More about Finding a Surrogacy Agency near You
The average cost of surrogacy in the state of New Jersey is $120,000-$210,000.
It’s a wide range, we understand. Surrogate costs may differ because of various reasons. These can include varying costs of medical screening at your fertility clinic, surrogate expenses, etc. We invite you to review the approximate fees and costs associated with selecting a surrogate through Family Inceptions.
Family Inceptions is pleased to offer Fertility Financing for the entire surrogacy cycle.
Estimated Surrogacy Cost & Fees Include:
As every surrogacy journey is unique and the cost of surrogacy differs based on many factors, it’s best to book a consultation with Family Inceptions Surrogacy Agency to get all the details.
Thinking about foregoing the surrogacy agency and doing an independent surrogacy journey? We recommend enrolling in an DIY online surrogacy course to learn the ins and outs of surrogacy, including the costs, finding the right surrogate, and how to the legal elements to secure your legal parentage in the state of NJ.
Download it here: Surrogacy RoadmapSee More About the Cost of Surrogacy
In New Jersey, gestational surrogacy is practiced, broadly permitted by New Jersey Gestational Carrier Agreement Act (signed into law on May 30, 2018 and effective immediately). This legislation provides for enforceable gestational carrier agreements and pre-birth orders in NJ under certain conditions.
Traditional (genetic) surrogacy is permitted in New Jersey only if it’s uncompensated and no pre-birth agreement to surrender the child. Intended Parents must adopt the child and can’t do so until after delivery. Reimbursements for medical expenses and other “losses” occasioned by the carrier as a result of the pregnancy can be permitted. If the Intended Father is the genetic parent of the child, he may be placed on the birth certificate and acknowledge paternity, with the consent of the carrier and her spouse, if any. The Intended Mother or other Intended Father would then need to adopt the child to terminate the carrier’s parental rights and remove her name from the birth certificate.
NOTE: The laws around surrogacy are constantly changing and may vary from state-to-state (sometimes varied by county). Based on our experience, written law and practiced law in a number of states can differ widely. Thus, it is very important that you not only get yourself familiar with the law of your state, but also seek legal representation to assist and guide you in your unique circumstances.Read more about Surrogacy in New Jersey Here
Surrogacy is an arrangement in which a woman intends and agrees to become pregnant for and to carry a pregnancy for someone else (“Intended Parent(s)” or “IP(s)”) who is/are intended to be the child’s legal and natural parent(s) after birth. As you undergo the surrogacy process, you should know there are two types of surrogates: gestational surrogates and traditional (genetic) surrogates.
A Gestational Carrier (medical term)/Gestational Surrogate (“Non-Genetic Surrogate”) is not genetically related to the child she carries. Modern technology allows the gestational surrogate to become pregnant with and carry a fetus that’s genetically unrelated to her by transferring embryos to her uterus formed via in vitro fertilization (“IVF”) using donor eggs or the eggs of the intended mother.
A Traditional Surrogate (“Genetic Surrogate”) becomes pregnant and carries a fetus genetically related to her by either having embryos formed via IVF using her eggs and the intended father’s sperm or donor sperm transferred to her uterus, or by achieving pregnancy by intra-uterine insemination using the intended father’s sperm or donor sperm. A traditional surrogate is a biological mother, but she intends to become pregnant and carry a child with the intention of relinquishing potential parental rights to the intended parent(s) upon birth. She never intends to become pregnant to have her own child. Genetic Surrogacy is traditionally not achieved by sexual intercourse.Learn more about surrogacy
Until very recently, tax breaks and laws for those using an egg donor or surrogate to create or grow their family have been murky to non-existent.
Things started to change in 2003 when the IRS ruled that couples using IVF could deduct fees associated with their treatment. This included costs associated with fertilization and embryo transfer. Additionally, agency fees, donor fees, and even medical and psychological testing fees are covered as medical expenses. Finally, insurance premiums connected with post-procedure care and even your legal fees (as related to contract preparation) can also qualify.
When it comes to your surrogate expenses, however, it’s a different conversation entirely. For the most part, most expenses will not qualify as a medical deduction. The exception would be surrogate expenses that can be tracked to an underlying medical condition that you have that makes it impossible for you to carry your own pregnancy.
You should consult with your tax professional and doctor to discuss your history of infertility to see what deductions may apply. A tax lawyer may be able to offer additional insight. It is wise to discuss your questions and concerns with a tax professional, tax attorney, or CPA to find the best solution for your individual situation.Read more about Surrogacy and Tax Deductions Here
There are many costs associated with fertility treatment, pregnancy and eventually, the delivery of one (or more) children in the case of multiples. Whether it’s the in vitro process, your gestational surrogate’s care or unexpected NICU costs; considering insurance coverage, what you have, what your surrogate has and what you may need is highly recommended.
It’s also important to note that there’s a difference between insurance for the actual pregnancy and coverage for the baby/babies once they are born. The insurance for the child goes on the intended parent’s insurance or a separate newborn insurance plan, while the surrogate’s insurance can be used for the pregnancy.
Ever since the 1980s, there are only fifteen states that require insurance companies to cover infertility treatment in general. Not many insurance companies cover the cost of in vitro fertilization (IVF) let alone the embryo transfer to a gestational surrogate. Depending on your specific plan, however, your policy may cover the cost, donor needs (if applicable), medications and very rarely your surrogate’s care.
Therefore, one of the first things you should do is contact either your human resources department (if your insurance is through yours or your partner’s job) or your insurance company directly to ask exactly what is and isn’t covered. On your call, you want to ask specifically what is covered (screening, medications, actual procedures) and if there is a lifetime maximum.
Another question to ask your insurance is when a newborn can be added to your policy. For example, if it’s possible to add your baby in the third trimester, this will make sure your child is covered for the delivery.
When considering a surrogate, it is important to inquire if any of the surrogates you’re considering have health insurance. Some policies will cover a “surrogate pregnancy”. If this is the case, she will be able to stay with all of her in-network providers she has already established a relationship with and it could offer you some savings. It is best for your agency to contact her insurance and ask if there are any additional exclusions to be aware of.Read more about Surrogacy and Insurance Here
In general, the surrogacy process could take up to 15-18 months. Of course, this time frame can vary greatly depending on your circumstances. If you need to find an egg or sperm donor or create embryos, this may add an additional 3-4 months to the process. The bottom line is that surrogacy is not a quick process.
But, up ‘til this point, has anything in your journey to parenthood been quick? So you know what it takes to be patient. The surrogacy process will be long, but well worth it in the end.
We at Family Inceptions Surrogacy Agency take the needed measures to ensure your surrogacy journey is as smooth as possible while we walk beside you every step of the way.Read about the Step-by-Step Surrogacy Process Here.
Let’s cut right to the quick- becoming a surrogate is a big deal. It’s a common phrase among adults, “…but first, do your research.” It’s true for most things in life, and becoming a surrogate is no different. Not only are you signing up for what might be a multi-year process, this is also a choice that comes with a lot of emotional difficulties, and at least on some level, is quite expensive.
In addition to that, while pregnancy is generally safe, things can happen during pregnancy and childbirth that are not pretty. So, before you jump in with both feet and decide to become a surrogate, do your research.
Here are a few things to consider before becoming a surrogate mother:
Once you’ve considered these things, you will be in a much better place to decide if you’d like to move forward or not as a surrogate.Find out more about Becoming a Surrogate Here.
Gestational surrogates can make up to $65,000 with Family Inceptions. This includes a $35,000-$45,000 base compensation, plus additional monthly stipends and allowances throughout your surrogacy journey.
Family Inceptions offer a generous compensation package to our surrogate mothers, and what you choose to do with the money you earn as a surrogate is completely up to you. Whether you choose to put a down payment on your home, save up to send your own children to college, or create a small business for yourself, there are many ways that this money can benefit you and your family greatly.
Of course, there is no way that the gift you bring to the future parents—and the rest of the world—could ever be quantified. It is a gift for which no one can ever repay you in full precisely because the life you will nurture, and all the hopes and dreams you carry, are priceless.Get an Estimate of Potential Compensation Using Our Calculator.
Yes! We highly recommend listening to the Fertility Café podcast, now streaming on Apple Podasts, Stitcher, Spotify, Google, and more.
Here’s a little bit about the show:
Who ever thought that making a baby could be so hard? Luckily, the fertility journey isn’t meant to be traveled alone. So grab a seat and let’s talk about fertility and alternative family building with leading industry expert, Eloise Drane.
FERTILITY CAFÉ is a weekly podcast focusing on all aspects of the fertility journey—from finding the right clinic and best reproductive endocrinologists, to navigating the egg and embryo donation process, to the ins-and-out of surrogacy including medical, legal, and financial aspects.
Eloise has helped hundreds of people build (and grow) their families over the last 15 years, and speaks candidly about the processes involved in making the dream of a baby a reality NOW.
Whether you’re an intended parent, a woman considering egg donation, thinking of becoming a surrogate yourself, or a friend or family member of someone dealing with infertility, this podcast will give you the insider information you’ve been seeking.Listen to the Fertility Café Podcast Now
Medical insurance in surrogacy is so important. Not only is surrogacy a major financial undertaking for the intended parents, but the idea of unchecked medical costs could also be downright terrifying. This is why, for the protection of both our surrogates and our intended parents, we require every match that we facilitate carry insurance.
While most people in the US do have health insurance, surrogacy is a tricky thing. Many insurance plans will have exclusions for surrogacy pregnancy. This is particularly true for women serving in or covered by a spouse who serves in the armed forces.
If a surrogate does not have a personal insurance plan that covers surrogacy, an intended parent is required to purchase and carry a medical insurance plan that will cover your related medical expenses during the course of your pregnancy.
Perhaps one of the best ways to get affordable health care coverage is with the Affordable Care Act (ACA). This plan is open to anyone and does cover surrogate pregnancies (in most states), but you can only be enrolled in the plan over one period of six weeks every year. This period is known as open enrollment.Read more about Surrogacy and Insurance Enrollment Here.
When tax season rolls around, it’s normal for surrogates to wonder whether their surrogate compensation is taxable — and whether they have to report their pay as a surrogate to the Internal Revenue Service.
The best way to determine whether you must pay taxes is whether you received a 1099-MISC form from your intended parents, your surrogacy agency, or your escrow service. If you receive a 1099-MISC for your compensation, you must definitely claim income on your taxes.
What if your surrogacy agency or intended parents don’t issue a 1099? Is surrogate compensation taxed in this situation?
Often, the question of whether a surrogate mother will pay taxes first arises during the drafting of the Gestational Surrogacy Agreement. Your lawyer may include a clause that holds intended parents accountable for any taxes that a gestational carrier may or may not be expected to pay on her compensation. As soon as you have a surrogacy attorney, talk with them in depth about this process to make sure you understand what taxes (if any) you might expect to pay after your surrogacy journey. You and your intended parents should always be on the same page about this topic before your surrogacy contract is finalized and signed.
In the debate about whether income from being a surrogate is taxable or not, the answer often comes down to the language used in the surrogacy contract and the tax laws of the state where a surrogate resides. In your research, you may find a few phrases thrown about:
As mentioned, because there are no court cases setting a precedent for this topic, the effectiveness of this language is up for debate. When it comes to taxes on surrogacy compensation, it’s a good idea not to assume anything without the assistance of a professional.Read More About Surrogacy and Taxes Here.
Just because you want to be a surrogate doesn’t mean you qualify to become one. There are a lot of factors that are taken into consideration. Candidates are evaluated on their age, medical history, financial independence, location, their thoughts on termination, and even their desire for contact and communication.
I referenced ASRM previously, which is the governing body that professionals seek to help develop the standard they use in their practices.
According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, or ASRM, to be a surrogate or a gestational carrier, a woman:
Besides that, clinics and agencies will have their own specific requirements that must be considered.
Here are the specific requirements we, at Family Inceptions, require from our select group of surrogate mothers: Do I Qualify to be a Surrogate?
Assuming you meet all the qualifications, the next step would be to fill out an application with Family Inceptions Surrogacy Agency.Take the Next Step to Becoming a Surrogate Here.
When it comes to matters of fertility and family building, the DIY route may cause undue amounts of stress and frustration. Going through a reputable agency will ensure that all parties involved are protected from scams (which unfortunately does happen) or from being matched with an unreliable donor or surrogate.
Here are some pros and cons to consider about going through a surrogacy agency or going the independent route:
Match through a surrogacy agency if:
Match independently if:
To become a Gestational Surrogate, we at Family Inceptions need to learn some information about your personal and medical history. Our knowledge of your health and medical history allows us to determine if you are compatible with the surrogacy process for Gestational Surrogacy so that it will not involve any increased risks for you. This will also help us match you with an appropriate recipient.
First, you should know what the requirements are for becoming a surrogate. You must fulfill the following criteria:
Great question. There are two different kinds of surrogacy – traditional and gestational. In traditional surrogacy, a woman becomes pregnant with a biological child that she does not intend to raise. In gestational surrogacy, an embryo is made outside of the body using the egg of a second woman. The conceived child does not have any biological link to the surrogate and is raised by intended parents.
Carrying another person’s child is an enormous responsibility because you are carrying their hopes, dreams, and future. Intended parents want somebody they can trust. Hence, you need to be honest, committed and caring. You also need to be in good health – physically, as well as emotionally.
Moreover, as a surrogate mother, you’ll be expected to make a series of doctors’ appointments. There may be travel, dietary, and physical limitations prescribed to you by doctors and you’ll be required to follow everything for a healthy pregnancy.
In order for you to become a gestational surrogate, your spouse must be in full support of your decision. He or she will be required to complete a medical and psychological screening, background check, and sign legal agreements.
Why would you take one of the most important steps of your life all on your own? Surrogacy is a huge commitment and has a lengthy process. The right agency makes the entire journey easier and safer for you.
With an agency managing the legal, financial, and medical aspects of your journey with expert ease, you get the peace of mind to take care of yourself and focus on growing your relationship with the intended parents.
Additionally, you also have the security that your compensation benefits are funded into escrow and disbursed to you right when they are due.
The level of involvement is entirely up to you and your intended parents. Most intended parents are eager to start a family and want to personally experience the surrogacy journey with you. We encourage intended parents to be involved because it is a unique and beautiful experience.
However, if you would prefer less of a personal relationship with the parents, we will support your decision and help articulate that to the intended parents. There may also be individual intended parents who prefer a more “hands-off” relationship.
The relationship you have is what you and your intended parents agree upon. We want to emphasize that you have a voice and we want you to feel comfortable in establishing how you would like your journey to be.
Yes, you most certainly can become a gestational surrogate if you are single or divorced. However, if you are separated from your spouse and not legally divorced, it is best to wait until you are, as there can sometimes be factors that could impact the surrogacy journey.
Don’t see your question here? Email your questions to our Surrogate Coordinator at or schedule a free, no-obligation 15-minute consultation to chat live.