Finding That Perfect Match
Choosing a woman to be your surrogate is a huge task. It can feel overwhelming and gargantuan. We get it. And we want to help.
We understand that this is a big decision and represents a huge commitment – both emotional and fiscal – on your part. So we want to take as much of the guesswork out of it as possible. That’s why each of our candidates are pre-screened—including an in-depth background check of the surrogate and her spouse or significant other, a psychological evaluation by a licensed psychologist, a home assessment completed by a social worker, and a review of her medical records. We also look into her financial stability to remove any potential of financially driven motives. We consider her motives for becoming a surrogate and her support network as well.
In short, by the time we present you with a potential surrogate, all that’s left is to make sure you love her.
Because of our intimate environment and personalized approach, we’re able to connect those who share similar desires for the surrogacy journey. The more we know about you and your expectations, the easier it will be to find the right gestational surrogate for you.
From the amount of involvement that you will have during the pregnancy to feelings on major issues such as if/when you would consider terminating or completing selective reduction − it’s vital that you and your surrogate agree on these issues.
Additionally, we support and encourage ‘faith-based surrogacy’ as an option for parents who want to incorporate their faith values into this incredible journey. If your religion and spirituality is a foundational part of your life, it can absolutely be a foundational part of your family-building journey.
Gestational Surrogate Requirements
Family Inceptions surrogates must meet the following criteria to become eligible to be a gestational surrogate through our program:
- Between the ages of 21 and 40
- BMI (Body mass index) between 19 and 30
- Delivered and currently raising or have raised at least one child
- No more than five deliveries with no pregnancy complications
- No more than three C-sections
- No deliveries prior to 37 weeks gestation (unless twins or more)
- Not receiving government assistance (cash aid, food stamps, Medicaid/Medicare)
- Have a supportive spouse/partner, friend, or family member
- You (and spouse/partner) can pass our thorough criminal background check
- Non-tobacco user for at least 2 years and live in a smoke-free house
- You and your spouse/partner have no current or previous history of substance abuse
- U.S. citizen or permanent resident.
- No recent history of mental health illnesses or taking medications (anxiety, depression, bi-polar, post-partum depression)
- You (and spouse/partner) agree to a psychological evaluation and medical testing
Surrogacy Misconceptions and Preventing Problems
Most myths are based on fear. When it comes to surrogacy, perhaps your largest fear is that your surrogate will not return your child to you once he or she is born. So it only makes sense that one of the biggest myths about surrogacy is that some surrogates will not give up the baby.
While this has happened, we’ve all seen it on the news, we like to point out that these cases are the exception, not the rule. It makes the news for a reason! Most surrogates are actually as worried that you won’t accept the child, as you are that she won’t return it to you.
To help calm your nerves, consider this:
- Every Family Inceptions surrogate is required to have children of her own.
- Regardless of how you find a surrogate, you should not work with any woman who has never given birth before or who have given birth but never raised her own child.
- Legal contracts must be utilized when working with a surrogate even if the surrogate is a friend or family member.
- Each party should have independent counsel.
- With states having different laws concerning surrogacy, it is important that you are aware of these laws prior to entering into a surrogacy arrangement.
- Family Inceptions works with top-rated attorneys who are well versed in reproductive law who can assist you with all your legal matters.
- Surrogacy is not allowed in all states within the United States.
- The laws in each state greatly differ about surrogacy— it is Family Inceptions’ job to know the laws of each state to ensure that we match you with a suitable candidate.
- It is not necessarily important where you, the intended parents, live, but where the baby will be delivered is critical.