Tips for Finding Your PERFECT Egg Donor
In some ways, finding an egg donor is a bigger deal than finding your surrogate. In fact, some may say that it’s even more challenging than the decision to choose surrogacy in the first place. After all, this person’s genetics will be living with you for the rest of your life. This person will shape your future family. It’s so very important to get it exactly right.
Are you scared yet? Nervous? Anxious?
Some agencies bank on this fear.
Unfortunately, so much of the blogging and literature surrounding the search for egg donors start with this attitude. While on one hand, we understand the severity of the choice, we want to talk about why finding the ideal donor doesn’t have to be a choice of black and white and dire consequences.
Research has shown time and time again that parents will love their child no matter what. Blonde, brunette, or purple hair, and brown, blue, and green eyes. It really makes no difference in the end. Think about it rationally. Can you even imagine a situation where you would love your child less because they don’t share your eye or hair color? We didn’t think so.
While it is exciting and fun to have a wide array of options available when it comes to choosing an egg donor, we want to encourage you to take a deep breath and a big step back. You will love your child even if he or she is not created from the egg of a 23 year old with a 4.0 GPA, blonde hair, blue eyes, a BMI of 22 exactly, with a keen appreciation for athletics and a deep love of family.
Since a reputable egg donor agency will help you determine your potential donor’s worthiness in terms of health, physical, emotional, and psychological well-being, focus on your instincts instead. Find someone that you feel comfortable with; find a profile that speaks to your heart.
Take a deep breath and remember the end goal. Make a list of things that matter the most to you, sure, but don’t get hung up on small details.
After all, beauty is only skin deep.