Real Stories from Our Intended Parents, Surrogates, and Egg Donors
Family Inceptions made the personal aspects of this journey SUCH a priority. Eloise rocks at that and she is really good at understanding BOTH sides. One of the toughest things for me to handle was being able to speak up for myself and voice boundaries or communication concerns because I did not want to hurt anyone's feelings, but wanted to communicate clearly, and Eloise and her team were great at facilitating those scenarios. I also had to remind myself OFTEN (or other surrogates would remind me) that in MOST cases, IPs are coming to the table with hearts that have been shattered, repeatedly. Some with miscarriages, others with major health concerns, some with failed adoptions, still births, the list goes on. So often I had to remind myself that if IPs are coming off as guarded, or cautious, or subdued in their excitement - that it had ZERO to do with my or surro baby. They are protecting their hearts and sometimes that means their reactions or requests do not look the way you expect. Strangely enough it is kind of like being married - communication and understanding is SO important, as cliche as that sounds. Bottling up feelings or concerns never, ever works, but especially in this scenario. My experience felt like an experience with my family, because in a strange way we are now and always will be linked in that way. Granted every story is unique (I cannot imagine navigating this journey internationally, though I bet technology can make a lot of that possible now) but my IPs texted and checked in regularly, came to my OB/GYN appointments (but let me have time with the Dr. individually first), our families met and interacted and my big kids got to visit my surro baby in the hospital. It was awesome."